Tag Archives: Parenting Tweens and Teens

The Evolution of Clothes

Periodically, I check into my Google Reader and read posts from different bloggers, for entertainment and to keep abreast of news, trends and opinion. My friend and college, Linda Hoye, wrote a post on her evolution of clothes, which triggered a whole host of ideas in my head…One of which was what my kids wear, how they dress, particularly Holden.

What has become a trend among the young men of the hip hop generation, emulating the prison population (no belts or shoestrings to ward off suicide or murder by hanging, use as a weapon, or to advertise easy “access” for other inmates…that’s all I’m going to say…), is the wearing pants and shorts below the butt crack—sometimes below the butt, sometimes belted around the thighs (and when I see young guys struggling to walk dressed like, well, yes, I stop and watch. I want to pull the chair out of the back of my van, sit in it and eat popcorn.) Fascinating and entertaining. And utterly stupid.

Holden doesn’t wear his pants that low, however his pants are rarely above his butt crack. Even with a belt. His friends dress the same and, sad to say, I can tell who these young gentlemen are by glancing at the boxers in plain view. Not an intimacy I’m comfortable with.

Holden went out again last night with his jeans barely covering his rear. They weren’t sagging. A belt wouldn’t have helped. They just didn’t fit. He has outgrown them. Those jeans made it into the laundry this morning. You know, sometimes in the process of doing the laundry things just have a way of disappearing, like t-shirts with less-than-desirable slogans and non-fitting jeans, pants and shorts…



Filed under Multicultural Families, Parenting, The International Mom

New Year Brings Launch Of My New Class — Parenting Your Adopted Child: Tweens, Teens and Beyond

Happy New Year!

A new year brings new growth. I am excited to announce that I am launching a new class in 2010 called Parenting Your Adopted Child: Tweens, Teens and Beyond.

Please join me in spreading the word about a class I have developed and am facilitating that begins February 10, 2010.

Parenting Your Adopted Child is a six-week e-mail course that focuses on helping adoptive parents support adopted tweens and teens as the entire family navigates the sometimes-tumultuous inner and outer terrain of growing up. The class offers a safe space in which parents can explore, reflect on and discuss the process of adoptive parenting.

 By the time adoptive parents are done with the course, they will learn:

  • How to process the losses that are inherent in the adoption process
  • How to openly discuss the topic of adoption with your child
  • How to help your child become emotionally unstuck, if and when this happens
  • How to manage feelings of rejection, guilt and shame
  • How to support your child’s quest for identity and self-esteem 

 Folks can find out more and sign up here.

 Thanks for helping me spread the word about the February 10, 2010 class.


Filed under Adopted Teens, Classes with Judy, Parenting, Parenting Your Adopted Child