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Regarding The “Hottest”: An Open Letter to the Famous People

Dear Hollywood Celebrities and Wannabees,

I’ve recently been interviewed for several magazines (Parenting and the online SheKnows) about a few different parenting topics, appearing in May and March respectively. A writer myself, I checked out the writers interviewing me. In doing so I discovered they’re well-vetted. I also learned something else in my writers’ research, that I inadvertently gave my sons “Pottery Barn” names. $#&+!

Apparently Pottery Barn names are some of the “hottest” around. Not such hot news for a mom who strove to have kids with different monikers, especially with the surname of Miller attached.  I have a thing about not being like everyone else. I like to buck the trends, or, apparently, in this case, lead it.

Pottery Barn Kids (launched in January, 1999) didn’t exist when Holden was born or when we selected the name Greyson (decided upon and “waiting” for him for the eight years before he was born). I combed both of the Pottery Barn inventories; fortunately my girls haven’t made the “hottest” list, although in 2010 Aubrey (different spelling) moved up to 44th in the 100 most popular baby girls’ names.

I know, I know. Names aren’t typically trademarked; well, unless you’re Beyoncé and Jay-Z. If I were a Pottery Barn consumer, I would boycott. But I’m not, so I’ll just vent.

Quick, famous people; keep your baby bumps a-coming and create a few more fascinating and unusual names that will boot my boys’ and keep my girls’ names off the “hottie” list.

Please and thank you,

The International Mom

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The Importance of Names

We’ve been approved! Yep, it’s official. We’ve been found to be a good home for a three year-old newfie (Newfoundland dog). Given his age, he comes with a name. I assume he is rather attached to that name, but the name has been a matter of discussion since we involved the kids in the decision to rescue him.

Greyson brought the question up the other evening. “Can we change his name? It reminds me of Pokemon.”

“We’re keeping his name. It’s what he knows,” said Mark.

“We can name him something else,” responded Greyson.

“Nope. He keeps his name. We don’t change names,” I added.

“What was my name before you got me?”

“Greyson. We named you. But if we hadn’t we would have kept your name. We did keep your surname and we kept your sisters’ too.” And I explained what a surname is… “Just think, what if you had been named Joe and you knew yourself as Joe? What if we decided we didn’t like Joe and called you Sam?”

“I would be mad because you changed my name,” he said.

“Yes, I think you would and you would feel confused as well. Do you understand, honey?”

“I do. I’m happy his name will be the same. When is he coming home?” Greyson came around the kitchen table and hugged each of us.

(Stay tuned!)


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