Monthly Archives: January 2011

On the Radio!

Join me for another “first.” On Monday, January 31st, I will be the guest on TogiNet Radio’s Adoption ~ Journey to Motherhood, hosted by Mary Beth Wells. The show covers topics and issues relevant to adoption: adoptive parents, birth parents, those who have been adopted, foster care, and perhaps for many, infertility. I’m going to talk about the classes I teach and adoptive parent advocacy.

Recently Adoption ~ Journey to Motherhood has showcased open adoption and out-going international adoption (children born in the U.S. adopted by European parents), coping with severe illnesses in children who have been adopted, birth mothers’ stories of relinquishment, and adoption when the child has been abused.

The half-hour show begins at 9:30 AM EST. You can be part of this interactive show by calling in with questions, toll-free, at 877-864-4869. I hope you will tune in! is the premiere on-line talk radio production company in the industry, committed to providing excellence in live show production quality podcasts and re-podcast accessibility.  The company’s brick and mortar studio is based in Tyler, TX where the company’s full production staff works to create customized interfaces, live commercials and CD quality sound for over 70 talk radio hosts, in varying genres.  TogiNet Entertainment offers quality shows for serious hosts.

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Birth Country History and Current Events

How much to filter? We parents are faced with this constantly and even though many of us feel we are good stewards of what our children are exposed to, we still fail, sometimes miserably. I know I’ve had my share of blunders and “Oops!”

I typically watch the news in the mornings. Watching news in the evenings is sometimes the worst way to end a day…

Since we adopted internationally we try to stay abreast of and monitor news and current events about China and Guatemala, the birth countries of three of our four children. China is in the news a lot, Guatemala not so much. To balance the American slant of Chinese news I’ve taken to reading one of the Chinese newspapers, in an attempt to gain another perspective. Fascinating what each country/government focuses on.

With the visit of Chinese President Hu, interestingly on the heels of the Martin Luther King Jr. holiday, questions and conversation have moved from U.S. civil rights to human rights and policy in China. And that’s a tough one—a painful truth for our family, because in addition to the joy of becoming family, there is profound loss due to a country’s policy. By in large girls in China have been able to be adopted because if the one-child policy and the status of males in Chinese culture. So we explain in developmental age appropriate language and at a level of informing without overwhelming. We’ll continue to monitor and filter. China is our daughters’ birth history and we try to be proactive and present it with truth, respect and an open mind.

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A Year of Milestones

Sometimes, when I can sit and think about what really is happening among my kids, I have an “Oh, wow!” moment. For me this often rivals an Oprah “Aha!”

2011 is weeks old and promises to be full of milestones:

  •  Holden turns eighteen and heads off to college.
  • Aubry begins her second “cycle of twelve,” the second of five that comprises the sixty-year Chinese zodiac cycle.
  • Greyson enters the double digits.

And Josi, well, she turns into a teen. Thirteen… In Chinese culture thirteen is considered a lucky number because it sounds very much like the word that means “definitely living.” So what else does turning thirteen signify? 

  • Crossing the threshold into adolescence and has moved into the first of the eight years that will complete the second decade of her life.
  • Becoming a member of our church.
  • Peer friendships have become more important.
  • Becoming more interested in Chinese heritage and history, what it means to be Chinese and to have been adopted.
  • Consciously and unconsciously searching for and discovering who she is (identity), what kind of values she will embrace and what compass she will follow.

Gosh, wasn’t it just yesterday that my nine-month old daughter was yelling at the top of her lungs in the Victory Hotel in Guangzhou, China, attempting to draw everyone’s attention as she stood all by herself (again and again and again)?

For those of you who are expecting or have young children, enjoy. Occasionally try to step back from the stress, business and that that needs “doing.” Revel in the gifts that your children are. Heed to the idiom, “Time flies!”


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