Monthly Archives: August 2010

The “Family” Project

Aubry and Greyson are often found somewhere by themselves, playing and laughing. A few days ago they were taking “family pictures” and movies of their stuffed “friends” with Aubry’s camera. The “friends,” were a collection of soft stuffed dolls, stuffed animals, Ugly Dolls, and, as my kids have labeled them, “fatsos.” Humor me…

I believe kids-play is quite revealing. In fact experts agree. Observe and you will learn how your child:

• organizes,
• thinks,
• perceives and feels about their world,
• uses words and concepts,
• relates to others—recognizing theirs and others’ feelings, and
• modulates their behavioral.

My two were shooting family pictures and movies of their stuffed families in various places throughout the house and making up stories to go along with their efforts. They shared their creative project with me, giggling and talking over one another in their excitement. The groupings were cute, however I became more fascinated as the word “adoption” became a common thread (just in case you are new to this blog, adoption is part of our family). Except for the family of Ugly dolls, the groupings differed—actually mirroring our family. The parents were often the same type of stuffed toy or of the same color or hue (like Mark and me). The babies never “matched.” The groupings were always all over one another, again similar to us. (We’re a fairly demonstrative crew.)

I asked a few questions about the stuffed families, but my kids didn’t want to talk only create and share. They were onto a new idea—dress Butch and Marley up (our boy kitties). Uh, no success there.

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Vernacular Trials

I called Holden on his cell.


“Pink,” I responded.

“Uh, yellow? Mom?”

“Purple,” I said, trying again. I wasn’t sure which part of the rainbow I was searching for. 

“Mom! What are you doing?”

“Hi, sweetie! I thought we were playing a new game. You know like the slug-bug thing Josi plays with me. You say a color and I respond…”

“No Mom, I said “hello,”’ said Holden.

“Oh. I could have sworn you said ‘yellow.’  That’s what it sounded like both times. You kinda smeared the word, you know?”


Oh man. How should I respond to this? I chose the next in line…


“Mom! What are you doing?” Holden was exasperated. “I said “all right.”’

“No, you said, ‘aight.’ I could have gone with sixteen, you know eight times two. What do you think?”


I stopped and got to the point of my call, “Sorry honey. Which set of compression shorts do you want me to bring to you?”

“Either is fine.”

Holden had finally ventured back into the English language that I was familiar with. But I couldn’t resist…

“Okay, sweetie. TTYL!” 


Yes, peace…

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Join Me! Live, Wednesday Evening

Every once in a while I do something new.

This week I’m going to be the guest on MomTV’s Adoption Angles, on Wednesday, August 11, at 9PM EST. I will be talking about adoptive parenting, of course, specifically about parenting tweens and teens who have been adopted.

The program will last roughly an hour and it is an interactive format, so you can ask me questions and comment. Come join me and be part of the conversation! You can bookmark the link above and add it to your calendar…

And would you mind spreading the word? Thanks!

Talk with you on Wednesday!


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