Wow. What a week, with the news of Torry Hansen’s desperate decision hitting the media.
I again breathe a sigh of relief that the news hasn’t been on in our home and that my younger kids do not have unmonitored internet access or phones. Yep, I’m protective. I have been accused of being overly so at times. So be it. I feel that’s one of my jobs as a mom.
As an adoptive parent, the news this past week has been very distressing, all the more so because it is dissected by many who have no business doing so. I’m all too aware that negative news “sells.” And, sorry everyone, but typically adoption is framed negatively. I’m tired of it.
I never know when the topic of adoption will be in the news. I want the news—slanted by people who do not have the facts, hashed over by people who don’t understand the complexities of adoption, or examined by people who have no compassion for the parties involved—to be filtered by me. This news affects me and my family. It also affects how people perceive me and my family.
Effective today, the Russian Ministry has called for a suspension on adoptions by U.S. citizens. This includes waiting families—those parents who are waiting to bring their children home. My heart cries for them and for their children. A suspension would mean that children in Russia will continue to languish in less than desirable living situations, battered by the effects of institutionalization.
One parent’s decision and actions does not represent the overwhelming majority of adoptive parents and indeed most adoptive families are thriving. Please keep all parties involved in your hearts and pray for an effective and speedy resolution.