I’ve heard and seen the signs already—in both of my girls. Concern about how they look. They are spending more time in front of the mirror. They compare and contrast their eyes, hair, and other body parts with each other and with me. One daughter laments about her nose; it’s too wide. It’s gorgeous (a mother’s informed opinion). My other daughter worries about body fat. Where it hides, I’ve no idea.
Like other moms, I try to project confidence about my self-image. I intentionally set out not to pass down any issues I might have with body image.
As a woman and as a transracial adoptive mother I am responsible for building confidence and reinforcing positive self-image of another race. This includes reminding my girls that because they are Asian, they are they differ physically from me in many ways. I want them to have realistic expectations and be able to love themselves for who they are.