Adoptive parents often refer to themselves as vetted.
When I was riding, the term referred to giving a horse a thorough check-up prior to purchase. Paperwork was filled out by the vet and signed and notarized. Buying a horse was a lot of outlay, so full and accurate disclosure was necessary.
When in the adoption process I felt like my horses, every aspect and orifice of my life and body were examined. Evaluated. In addition to being cleared at the local, state, and federal levels, I was subject to physical and psychological testing and the home study. Others were asked to weigh in with their opinion of my character and fitness as a mother.
It was unnerving, but I was more than willing to do it to bring my child home to me. The fact that I had one, then two, and then three children didn’t have any impact on the procedures and red tape. I (and my husband) was required to go through them each time. More paperwork was added (and more exists today).
Adoptive parents go though a lot. Yep…
Well, the “so what” is that I didn’t have to be vetted prior to becoming pregnant and giving birth.
Yes, but you were adopting a child – a child born to someone else. Someone else.
True. But, that child was available for adoption. And my heart and arms were open.
That child became my child. Mine.
Would you do it again?
In less than a heartbeat…