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2011 Wrap-Up

January: Our year of milestones began with two celebrations—New Years (everyone stayed up late and welcomed in the new year for the first time) and Día de Los Tres Reyes Magos, with a very stale Rosca de Reyes. My bad for buying one instead of making it myself. Josi became a bonafide teenager, and has been steadily working on proving it throughout 2011.  I brought up the rear with an appearance on TogiNet Radio’s Adoption ~ Journey to Motherhood, hosted by Mary Beth Wells. The program centered around one of the classes I teach: Tweens, Teens & Beyond. The half hour flew and I was delighted to not know the format of the show prior to coming on. Wish there had been time for more dialogue… I had a lot to say (per usual).

February ushered in Snowmaggedon and Chinese New Year—the year of the Golden Rabbit, a year in which we were supposed to catch our breath and focus on calm (maybe this year??), and Aubry’s second celestial stem (“second twelve”) of her first life cycle this year (sixty years in Chinese zodiac cycle).

In March Holden turned eighteen, and that added new worries for Mom. I was involved in The Parenting Summit, a free online event that featured video messages from a number of a leading parenting and family experts. The focus of the summit was to share tips and advice on becoming a more effective parent. It was stressful to tape myself; I prefer a live audience… (You guess right if you thought I spoke about transracial parenting and adoption.)

April took us to our beloved Pawleys for our last-in-a-long-time-maybe-ever family vacay, this time with my mother-in-law in tow. We enjoyed the cooler weather at the beach and some respite from a very hectic schedule and the intense focus on Holden’s IB studies and college. Holden made a decision on which college he would attend. (Note: We were, and still are, thrilled with his decision)

May was a terribly emotional roller coaster. We lost Mark’s dad on the 17th, ten years after he had been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, while Holden sat for his IB exams.  Our oldest graduated from high school a week later, missing most of the pre-graduation pictures because he had a car accident (he was fine, although shaken up).

The International Dad wrote a guest post in June for Father’s Day.  We also celebrated our 20th anniversary, family-style. The couple-style will be celebrated in 2012… I began weaning myself from asking Holden to pick up the driving slack. The family began to “breathe,” absorbing the slower and quieter pace of life.

July heralded our first ever non-family vacation, if you could call it that. I coined it an orbiting vacation. Josi went to an invitation-only national soccer camp in the south (which is why we went to Pawleys in April), and we stayed on a lake in the next state. It was so sweltering that even the bugs were stopped their bugging. Holden stayed home to work, and yep… Accident. This one totaled the car, although he was fine. There are reasons a mother worries. (He still doesn’t have a car.)

August arrived quickly, and with it professional expansion: The launch of my first micro-published work: What To Expect From Your Adopted Tween, which I wrote because I saw a need to assist parents with ideas and support when their children are entering adolescence, when questions and emotions tied to having been adopted become more complex.

I am thrilled that I wrote and published this e-guide, that it has received wonderful reviews and feedback, that it has sold and continues to sell well, and that it has become an international seller (uh huh! :)).  I also became certified to teach a program—Bringing Baby Home—through the Gottman Institute for new and expecting parents. We took Holden to college, pulling Josi, Aubry and Greyson from school so that we could help alleviate any potential triggers due to separation.

Aubry had her last tweenie birthday in September (difficult for me to believe…).  I presented on four well-received topics at two conferences, in Richmond, VA and Indianapolis, IN.  We began to understand just how tough was going to be with Holden away at college, even though we had Skype, Facebook, Twitter, texting, phones, and emails going constantly. There’s nothing like someone’s presence to alleviate that void.

The big guy (my hubby) celebrated his birthday in October. Holden came home for fall break and it was wonderful to have all of us together. I was very selfish with his time and I won’t apologize for that… (His friends did get plenty of him, too.)

Greyson hit, what we refer to in our home as, the “double-digits” in November.  He became ten. It was huge and wonderful and kinda sad. My baby, so “old.”  To bring awareness to adoption, I participated in The Adoption Interview Project. Thanksgiving was spent in quiet reflection about those who were not with us and gearing up for the coming holiday madness.

December brought the wonderful holiday, special traditions and many, many guests, including Holden’s young lady friend. We’ve eaten dozens of calorie-laden cookies baked by Josi, Aubry and myself as well as enjoyed hours upon hours of downtime, board games and movies.

We stand of the edge of 2011, wishing it farewell as we step forward and welcome 2012 with many friends and their families. Thank you, 2011—for the lessons and the gifts. For the ongoing love and support of family and friends. For replenishing this mama’s well when it has run dry. And for the stamina to do what I love—being a mother, wife, sister, friend, aunt, mentor, teacher, writer, and speaker.

                      ~ Photo (yes, blurry) taken by one of our silly kiddos

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Dia de los Tres Reyes

In our house the Christmas season extends past the New Year.  We’ve chosen to do this because Greyson was born in Guatemala and his birth culture and traditions are now ours as well.

Similar to others in Latin America, Guatemalans celebrate Dia de los Tres Reyes (Day of the Three Kings). It is widely believed that this is the day when the three wise men visited and delivered their gifts to baby Jesus. Dia de los Tres Reyes is also known as the Epiphany.

Our Nacimiento (nativity) remains out past Christmas. On the eve of Dia de los Tres Reyes, we say a prayer around the crèche. All of the kids participate, so somberness gives way to giggles and a celebratory feeling. Because we have recently had Christmas, the kids do not put their shoes out for gifts, as is the traditional custom. Instead, they give to other children.

On Dia de los Tres Reyes, we invite friends in and have a traditional Guatemalan Merienda de Reyes, the meal of the three kings. The meal concludes with hot chocolate and Rosca de Reyes, the colorful red and green sugar and candied fruit decorated oval cake , with the hidden plastic baby Jesus (the figure symbolizes Jesus being hidden from King Herrod’s men), purchased at one of the local mercados. My kids eat more than the traditionally allotted single piece of the yummy cake in an attempt to get the baby Jesus. For some reason we had two last year. Whoever finds the baby Jesus is expected to host the Candelaria (Candlemas) in the coming weeks. I also make a tres leches cake or cupcakes.

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Happy 2009!

We were t.p.’d again. The young ladies (Holden’s friends – known, confessed and unnamed) outdid themselves, surpassing their efforts from this past fall. They used more rolls, but apparently the economy affected their selection of the grade of toilet paper. It wasn’t the quilted sort of last time, which held up better. This stuff turned to mush.

I woke up to a spectacular display of toilet paper. It look like it had snowed and then iced long streamers of flakes all over the front and side yards. Some of the streamers must have been the entire length of the roll, because they hung long from the high boughs of our very mature and very, very enormous sycamore tree. The white looked lovely and festive against the backdrop of our pines.  Toilet paper was wound throughout our bushes, arbor and basketball goal.

Of course, Bronson didn’t bark. A dead giveaway that it was someone he knew.

I didn’t participate in the initial cleanup effort – in the sleet. My four warmly-bundled children, and niece and nephew (from South Carolina) spent two hours cleaning it up. The filled six leaf bags. They were rewarded with hot cocoa and yummy baked treats by Master Baker Josi.

Our neighbors enjoyed the wet globby remnants of the paper as well. The girls t.p.’d us on a night when a strong front was coming in. Toilet paper was blown as far as eight houses away. The poor neighborhood kids were hard at work, in the sleet.

Gives you an idea of the magnitude, eh??

Mark went out later with a tree trimmer to tackle the highest leftovers. I followed up the next day, after it had dried out and began to blow more all over our yard and the neighborhood.

Despite our best intentions, the birds will have lots of additional material to use for their new nests this spring. Oh, and did I mention, we got forked as well?  Yep.  I guess the Millers had settled in for a long winter’s nap…

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